My nose glows red with a dermatomyositis rash like the mythical reindeer of childhood Christmases past. The moral of that story—at least the CBS claymation version—is that what seems a flaw, what makes one different, what subjects one to ridicule, may be a blessing in disguise. But humans are not reindeer. No bearded, red-suited legend is going to ask me to guide his sleigh come some unforeseen foggy Christmas Eve.

We had a web conference with video at work today. It was all too obvious to me with my nose glowing on the screen, I am not who I was. I don’t feel attractive. I don’t feel positive. I don’t want my girlfriend to touch me. I barely feel human some days.

Doctors tell me in time my hydroxychloroquine will help. It has helped a little, but not enough, not fast enough.

Still, I wait for true relief, for what after six months seems like waiting for a miracle. Still, I taper down my steroids. Still, my nose gets redder. The skin on my jaw itches so much it wakes me in the night.

Am I supposed to find meaning in a red nose? Inspiration? Am I supposed to thank God or curse nature? Am I supposed to search for some metaphorical St. Nick for some purpose in this suffering?

As the philosopher Walter Kaufmann, paraphrasing the philosopher Frederich Nietzsche, observes, nature is too well designed to lack purpose but too ill designed to demonstrate intelligence.

Yet, as intelligent, conscious beings, we think; we feel. Aware of our own fragility in the face of near constant chaos, we agonize; we suffer. Aware of our own imperfections, we criticize; we despair. We seek symmetry, predictability, stability, security, order.

So what do we do with our imperfections? Can we fix them? Should we fix them? Or do we embrace them, stare nature in the face, and tell ourselves we are more than our faults?

I may not have a red nose forever. But right now, looking at myself in a photo or a mirror hurts. I tell myself these rashes are not who I am. But right now, I see only who I used to be. I tell nature I have had enough.